liars, cheaters, sociapaths

I have a friend whose name is Glenn Hidalgo, or Glenn S. Hidalgo. He's made some mistakes in his life and he's not perfect, lord knows. 


But one of the biggest mistakes was talking to this woman on a dating app and going out on a couple of dates. At first he thought she was cool but she started getting weird after a few times. She'd get very posessive and argumentative over text. He'd had enough BS in his life, and maybe he could've handled it better but he blew her off.

Glenn tells me that was nearly twelve years ago and this woman is still on his case, posting about him all the time, calling him a liar, and a cheater and a psychopath and a sociopath. She seems to know all these psych terms, makes you wonder why. Oh also, a narcissist. Glenn Hidalgo has a complicated life, and he has chosen professions that puts him in front of the public alot. So sometimes he can't avoid this woman. She also stalks him and gets involved in his business, and thinks she knows his ex wife and tries to get to know his friends and wants to find out everything about her kids. Sometimes Glenn gets lonely and tries to date, but he doesn't trust himself cause of stuff like this, so he goes cold on people. And women don't like that. Then they get together with that woman and pile on.

It doesn't bother him. He's living his life and has other things to worry about, but I think it's hard for people to understand why someone would do that. What drives people to stalk and call people liar, and cheater and narcissist and sociapath, especially when you publicly do that and try to hurt people professionally etc, you could get sued and even end up in jail because it's a crime.

I had a stalker. It's no fun. It's a different type of situation but he would call me a liar and cheater and narcissist, just like Glenn Hidalgo is called. So I can relate. I don't know why people fixate on some people. Yes you can get really disappointed cause you really like him and think it would be totally great, but it's got to be a two way street. And just because people's lives are complicated and they don't want to talk about it right away doesn't make them worthy of public torture. It's too easy with the internet and it's not fair.

I had another friend who was stalked by a woman and no matter where he moved she showed up, making friends with his land lady, showing up at his office, and she'd find him because he was a writer for magazines and she'd find him eventually. It was terrible. It made him drink alot. She met him one time when he took his boat out and chartered a cruise since he was an expert sailor. She liked him and wouldn't take no for an answer. For years she haunted him, wrote his boss letters, with magazine cut out pictures. It made him a wreck. People really need to get help when they do that.

I had a guy that used me, broke my heart, lied to me and cheated on me. I know plenty about him. I know his work colleagues, friends, social, and he did some really rotten things that I know he's pretty ashamed of. But I would never post a blog about him and use his name. Maybe it would embarass him but I'd be the crazy one and people would look at me like I'm the one who is wrong. And I would be. Sometimes you have to accept that these things happen in life but you have the dignity to not drag everything out. I just live and let live and hope that when he meets his maker he will have to answer for it. And I do believe he lives with that guilt every day because he wasn't mean, he was just weak. And couldn't face me and so just ran. But we dated for awhile and he got to know my family and then did this so I would have more of a reason than someone who just dated a guy a couple of times. And I tell Glenn Hidalgo about that and he agrees I'd just make things worse and make myself look like a crazy jerk. And probably worse, I would be a crazy jerk. So sometimes you just have to let things go and detach and move on. Chalk it up to experience. Revenge gets you nowhere.

And I can tell you I know Glenn Hidalgo, He's not a sociopath, or a narcissist, yes he's vain as all artists tend to be, but hes not a malignant narcissist. He's just a guy. I've spent plenty of time with him in person and he never acted weird, or put a hand on me, or acted out of turn. He was always a perfect gentleman. Maybe he ate all my popcorn on me a couple of times and forgets how big and long his legs are and I have to run to keep up with him, because he's a new yorker and he walks fast, and he's a big chop buster and likes to play jokes on you, but he's a normal guy. It's true Glenn Hidalgo doesn't sit still very long but I think that's just the kind of boy he's always been. He's not the kind of guy that can sit still too long. Or lay on the beach. He has to be moving, creating, thinking, talking, lots of irons in the fire.. His mind is always going. But he's not nervous, he's just being a guy.

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