Glenn Hidalgo New York City and I Discuss Cheaters and Liars and Sociopaths


I sat down for a beer with my friend Glenn Hidalgo in a little place in Jersey city, New Jersey and we had a good talk. 

We looked at his new art, talked about his plans for his music, talked about family, the city, my job, lots of things. We also talked about liars, cheaters, sociopaths and narcissists. Both when you meet them and when you are accused of being one. I told Glenn Hidalgo it's not cool either way. 


The difference between a Narcissist and a vain person


A real Narcissist is nothing to tangle with. They may be charming at first but they quickly get mean and controlling. A guy that makes plans and then chickens out, may have issues, but it's not Narcissism. Narcs love every opportunity to control and they don't let go easy. I told Glenn just
Glenn HIdalgo discusses cheaters, liars, sociopaths
Liars, cheaters, sociopaths, narcissists
because people are a little vain and self-centered, that doesn't make them a narcissist or sociopath. These are serious psychological conditions and people like to throw those words around.

Cheaters and Liars, Living with a Cheater in Cheaterland


I also told Glenn Hidalgo that cheaters are not cool, no one likes to be cheated on and no one feels good about themselves when they cheat and he agreed. People do things they are not proud of but it happens. I know when my marriage was not going so well I thought about cheating. I likely would have but it just didn't happen. When your marriage is having problems sometimes people cheat for a lot of reasons, and it's not just to screw over the other person, it's just to fill a need. So we talked about how we've been cheated on either mentally or more, and what's complicated in life. It's really not for anyone outside of the relationship to determine and judge how other people should act. And if it's time we always have the option of divorce, assuming we're married.

People change and grow apart so it's a great thing that we're allowed to divorce. With this Covid19 pandemic all I keep telling myself is that if I had not gotten divorced, I'd be quarantining with my ex right now. And I thank myself for sticking it out and putting myself through that terrible divorce. And I pray for his new wife who has him now under her feet every minute of every day. And she's cleaning up every mess he makes as he moves around the house.

Dealing with a sociopath


My ex was crazy and stalked me, but I wouldn't call him a sociopath. He had empathy from time to time, he loved animals and has a consciounce, it's just not enough sometimes.
Glenn Hidalgo and I had a good long conversation about the liars and cheaters in our lives, the past regrets, the things we didn't like but wouldn't change, the journey we've taken. We have a long time to go still God-willing so we hope we have peace from these people from our past. If you have dealt with cheaters, liars, sociopaths, narcissists in the past you know what Glenn and I are talking about. Best thing to do is to lick your wounds, count your blessings and move on. Here are some links:

https://www.btr.org/is-my-husband-a-narcissist/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw7qn1BRDqARIsAKMbHDY9N_JIhcQpXRh6LifD7e2fgcMqqf-gH49xVhEBZjyGC_GxZjZryQgaAgTnEALw_wcB


https://www.facebook.com/narcissistsupportgroup/

https://www.developgoodhabits.com/how-to-deal-with-a-narcissist/

I can't even remember everything we talked about but I teased him that figures he would have the background on his iphone set to black. It was good to catch up with Glenn.

Location: New York, NY, USA

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